There are many things you can learn from the best and the worst of moments in this ride called life. Everyone talks about hard skills and soft skills and I stand firm on the argument that if in life, you’ve got one or the other at a time that complement each other in any shape or form, the ability to accrue the missing pieces can take you very far in life. In my case, all of that education (at this point in my life I find myself racking my brain to reconcile which bits of it) has served its purpose – It has taught me how to grasp certain things, helped build a keen lens to spot things that are amiss, and the passion to use what’s known a priori to launch a game-changer or to aggrandize or otherwise bolster the world as it is today.
This one, though is to speak to the things that we begin to learn as children – toddlers, even. The red flags. The things that’ll hurt later. The things that’ll hurt immediately. The things that’ll get you into trouble….
Or do we? Over the past few months I’ve been wondering how many of my choices are borne out of the same clueless innocence, bordering on the stupid. What drives adults with fully formed brains (knowing me, a fair few people would undoubtedly disagree) to drop logic and go after fantasy? At this point in time, blind assumptions of success, growth, a feeling of ownership and belonging seem like a long lost dream that led me into a path with lanes that change so fast that I’m left waddling around like a headless chicken. The one comforting, albeit concerning caveat here is that absolutely nobody goes through an entire lifetime without feeling like that. In examinations, in loss, in pain, in challenging classes, in their minds, in desperation… it’s frightening to think about.. In my life I’ve come across a LOT of motivational quotes – ‘Nothing is bigger than the human spirit’ and the like….While by and large I strongly believe in those sentiments, even the best of us feel defeated for that one moment.
I got stuck writing this one – the best I got from an incredible friend of mine – “If nothing teaches you, life will” and that’s how I’d like this one to be seen – that it wont be easy, it wont be nice. It will probably get even worse. But never quit. There is always at least one person that’s backing you to get yourself out of your rut. I’ve been very fortunate – to the point that I (with a touch of hubris) know I have people rooting for me, to whom my success feels like a feather in their cap. Ultimately, that to me sets us apart. We do cry we do lose and we do get defeated, but the value we place in the people around us, the life around us all makes us stronger and better than all the animals out there. Are there bad people around? For sure. We all even have elements of that inside us. But, by and large, people’s willpower as a collective has the potential to help you out of any hole you dig for yourself or are forced into! If nothing teaches you, life will.. and what it taught me is that the habit of helping and being there for people never ceases to pay off. Hoomans need hoomans. Find your hoomans and things will eventually be just fine!